tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5383115094834298755.post3030946332172270399..comments2024-01-25T03:03:44.761-05:00Comments on Glow Baby: FriendsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13293789259999469828noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5383115094834298755.post-18733193339693726362010-06-28T21:54:20.614-04:002010-06-28T21:54:20.614-04:00When I became a mom I did lose a few friends but n...When I became a mom I did lose a few friends but no breakup was necessary, we just drifted apart with different things to do. <br />But I did make new ones and life has gone on and is very good.Tracyhttp://www.orlandovacation.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5383115094834298755.post-11487328968353176612010-06-24T13:14:34.446-04:002010-06-24T13:14:34.446-04:00Hi Emily,
Thank you for sharing your story. I ca...Hi Emily,<br /><br />Thank you for sharing your story. I cannot imagine how hard it would have been to be dealing with a miscarriage while friends had just had a baby. I had actually wondered about that with my former friend. If there had been something going on behind the scenes that I was not aware of. I just know the turning point was the birth of my daughter. I would have hoped our relationship was such that she could have confided in me. I will probably never know the reason behind the end of our friendship but every once in awhile I can't help but wonder.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13293789259999469828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5383115094834298755.post-43441588105839895852010-06-24T12:14:36.837-04:002010-06-24T12:14:36.837-04:00I've been on the other side.
My friend had h...I've been on the other side. <br /><br />My friend had her baby shortly after I had a miscarriage. I hadn't told anyone about the pregnancy because it was so early (besides my husband and doctor, obviously). I was barely able to make it through an hour without crying and it felt like the pain of our loss would last forever (it never truly does go away). <br /><br />I honestly couldn't face my friends, ecstatic with their new baby. I couldn't see that baby without thinking of the one I lost. I couldn't hold her without my heart breaking. I couldn't hear their complaints about the hospital stay, lack of sleep, upchuck or diapers without bitterness, sadness, pain and - worst of all - shame for feeling all these things. <br /><br />I tried to visit a couple times, but always left after a short time, barely holding back the tears. They couldn't understand why I didn't want to hold her and didn't stay around to watch her or talk about her. <br /><br />I wasn't ready to share my painful story with them, as I couldn't bear the pity or the usual comments people make which although well-meant only served to make me feel like they were dismissing my pain.<br /><br />I did end up talking with them after a few months, when I was more able to cope, and explained why I'd been acting strangely. I wouldn't say the friendship is over, but it has changed and become a lot less close. <br /><br />So all I can say is, don't jump to conclusions about your friend not being a true friend if she was no longer around once you had your little one. It's possible that she has a painful secret and she just wasn't able to share your joy. It wouldn't be a comment on the friendship, just her incapability to cope with a difficult situation.Emily Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00502193048317452144noreply@blogger.com